Recently, after a particularly stressful work week, I finally realized why parents and students get angry at me, the school counselor, when Harvard tells them they just don’t think it’s going to work out and denies their ‘uniquely brilliant child’ admission to their college. Was it inadequate SAT scores? An anemic GPA? What, oh what, destroyed the hope of an Ivy League education for their child?
Maybe the student didn’t captain three winning state championship teams? Or maybe Preston missed a rainforest somewhere in Central America that he could have saved? And exactly where was this student’s solution to our economic woes in that all-important college essay? Well, even if all of the above were in a student’s portfolio, I must take ownership for this failure to admit, because I think I was the problem all along.
Finally, I have the answer that has eluded me for years. So here is my best explanation for why things go wrong in my life and in the life of those I am responsible for: I’m just too pretty and this is the way other women in charge take out revenge on me. This must be the case because nothing else makes sense. Just ask writer Samantha Brick who came out with this theory in an online article she wrote for The Daily Mail. Yep. She’s just so pretty that other women hate her and want to make her life miserable.
If the feminist and activist Gloria Steinem was dead, she would be spinning in her coffin. Since she’s alive, she should quickly respond to Ms. Brick who obviously never got the memo, circulated decades ago especially among accomplished women that killed the notion that women are each other’s enemies.
Steinem, and many other women in politics, the arts and business, brought forth the idea that women have lagged behind men in many ways for years. They also changed our culture by enlightening women that we have to help bring out the best in each other if we are to compete with men in the boardrooms and the bedrooms. These brave women of not so long ago knocked down the notion that women were obstacles to other women and it’s been that way ever since.
A modern byproduct of early feminism is reflected in the wildly successful TV show, though now in syndication, Sex and the City. Leaving the sex part out, the show embodied the feminine spirit of genuine admiration and support that close friends, all very different and all very beautiful, had for one another.
Ms. Brick needs a history lesson fast, and maybe a trip to a therapist’s office even faster.
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